Like a death...

I have wanted to but not wanted to blog for a few days. The marriage of some close homeschooling friends has broken down and the couple has separated, hopefully temporarily. It was such a shock because we never saw it coming. We knew some stuff was going on but we tchalked it up to a career change and the new trials of being self-employed. Looking back you see little pieces that you recognize, in hindsight, as indicators that something was going on behind the scenes but we never connected those dots.

Now we are in the midst of feeling helpless, trying not to take sides and even going through some of the stages of grief, as if something has died--and I guess it is our ignorant bliss, our loss of innocence and shock about the hard stuff that was occurring behind closed doors and especially the pain at feeling that we were in some way tricked by the happy masks that hid the garbage from site.

The helplessness is the worst; hugs, prayers, encouraging words are all we have to offer--our love in the midst of pain. It is so depressing and I endeavor to find the morethanfine in there somewhere...